You like to masturbate. This is not groundbreaking news. Your compulsive need to jerk your dick is how I pay my bills and fund my fabulous life. And yet, I hate JOI. I loathe it more than probably any other fetish in the Femdomsphere. I’m not alone. Jerk off instruction is openly derided by many dommes in the scene and many of us will decline your seemingly innocuous session requests. There are plethora reasons for why you’re seeing more dommes decline to participate in JOI but I’ll highlight the most common themes.
Why I Hate JOI
- JOI sessions play into the status quo. As a femdom who strongly ascribes to female supremacy, I love to subvert traditional power structures. Traditionally, both sex and porn have been overwhelmingly focused on men and their dicks. Women have been pleasuring men’s cocks since the dawn of humankind. I don’t find being slightly more in control of the “how and when” of your cock’s pleasure to be the subversive rush I look for when I dominate men.
- JOI is sensual femdom. Some men don’t realize they are inherently submissive. They need to be gradually introduced to it. JOI is a good gateway drug. But for experienced femdoms like me who aren’t into sensual domination, it’s simply too vanilla. You haven’t found any other more compelling fetishes to combine with your masturbation so the thought of telling you different ways to jerk your dick (there aren’t that many) for 30 minutes makes me want to gauge my eyeballs out. I’ll cede the fact that some men might feel incredibly submissive having the power to stroke their dicks as they please taken away from them, but I don’t feel pleased or entertained so why would I indulge it?
- You don’t listen anyway. We’ve all sat through the sessions before. You ask for JOI, I start instructing you and watch as you furiously beat your dick with no regard for what I’m saying. The next minute, you cum without permission. You just wanted the fantasy of having your cock out of your own control and couldn’t even manage to obey. I don’t do brat taming and I don’t do pseudo-submissives.
- Oversaturation. With JOI being such an easy entry point to femdom, it’s incredibly popular. As a domme I’m inundated with requests for it daily even though I advertise offering it nowhere. I could easily fill my days making mad cash doing nothing but JOI. Even for dommes that are initially amenable to it as a fetish, over time the endless parade of JOI requests and sessions build up to a complete dick fatigue.
Making JOI Palatable
If you’re familiar with my work I know what you might be thinking: “but Chrissy…why do you make JOI clips then???? Why are you always doing the jerk off wrist motion??? ?” Nothing like the thrill of calling out a hypocrite, right? Pat yourself on the back, champ. You’ve found me out. Not. Actually, all you’re proving is that you haven’t bought my clips or paid to speak to me at all.
I repeat my philosophy on these kind of things often. Sure, on occasion I produce content pertaining to JOI but it’s with my own spin. I tend to combine it with my most brutal humiliation or mind fuckery. This way you associate your masturbation either with your own degradation or your inescapable addiction to me. These are also the only kind of JOI sessions (cam, phone) I take on, but I prefer not to advertise JOI at all as horny men with dicks in their hands aren’t great with reading comprehension or nuance and tend to lie about understanding my limits to get what they want.
I’m a pragmatic pro-domme. I want, encourage, and expect that you will be masturbating while watching my clips or taking on a session with me. I might even tell you to do it. It makes me a lot of money. It just can’t be the main highlight, the sole purpose of our interaction and your “submission” to me. So jerk like a madman. Rub one or multiple loads out to me daily. Just don’t expect me to care about or explicitly detail the process and we’re cool.