As an e-domme, I predictably spend a considerable amount of time on the internet. I stumble upon weekly discussions deriding findom as a manipulative scam that preys upon defenseless, mentally unstable men. Vanilla folk have been leveling this kind of argument against BDSM since its inception. Why are these kinksters so close-minded to the same criticism that stigmatizes their own fetishes?
Ignorance
Almost anyone on the internet is talking out of their ass. There is no research requirement before a person is able to spew their ignorant opinion all over the web and claim it as fact. They will clamor to tell you how finsubs are mentally ill victims and couldn’t consent to a healthy findom fetish. Of course, keyboard warriors have no idea how online findom works. They don’t make an effort to understand the dynamics of male earning power and why it makes financial sacrifice so submissive. They don’t listen to the finsubs telling them how much they enjoy the fetish since it contradicts their own preconceived notions.
Misogyny
Women taking money from men is and always has been controversial. Trophy wives, gold diggers, and sugar babies have been portrayed as manipulative, scum-sucking whores for longer than I’ve been alive. I was five years old when Anna Nicole Smith married her Texas billionaire and remember all too well the way the media spun her story. Findom builds upon all of this misogyny by adding an extra layer of “manipulation.” See, not only are these poor, vulnerable men paying women, they aren’t even getting anything in return!! No wife on their arm, no sex, no subservient woman walking on egg shells to prevent losing her cash cow. This connects back into my point regarding ignorance, because I can guarantee you finsubs have spilled enough jizz over their findom interactions to fill Niagara Falls. Remind me how are they not getting anything, again?
You will see a lot of latent misogyny within women, too. The pick-mes line up during any findom discussion to reassure their male counterparts that they aren’t evil succubi after their money, and would never take advantage of a horny man for cash. Good for them, they can deal with all the men for free that aren’t willing to pay me. This ecosystem has room for everyone, even the terrible ones.
Professional Aversion
I’m not going to delve into lifestyle BDSM practitioners. Suffice it to say, kinksters who practice BDSM with their partners are completely ignorant to the inner workings of transactional online BDSM. Their opinions can head straight to the trash can they came from. Oddly though, I’ve seen plenty of this ignorance from other pros. Pros who already have clearly grasped the joy of charging for their BDSM expertise. Why? A combination of jealousy and embarrassment, I’d wager. I won’t deny that Instadomme Twitter reflects poorly upon findom. Thankfully, anyone with an iota of experience or knowledge of true findom knows that it isn’t representative of the fetish. Pros feel delegitimated and embarrassed by their association with Instadommes, but they are also jealous. Age breeds bitterness as the older generation sees their successors finding easier success.
A Nurturing Solution?
It feels as if every year there is a new gentle findom trend. Findom that isn’t icky or exploitative. Instead, these new generation findoms are actually caring and responsible BDSM practitioners who only want to improve their submissives’ lives. Excuse me, I just about vomited typing that sentence out. This year, it’s “nurturing findom” and last year it was “wholesome findom.” The titles change, but the sentiment is the same. Normal financial domination is too cruel and manipulative for most of these poor paypiggies to handle and a better type of findom is one who takes on the massive task of babying the man and ensuring he doesn’t make any bad decisions.
In case my tone of voice isn’t clear, I think this is absolute bullshit. Finsubs have limits which they are very good at abiding by. Why, sometimes the limit even seems to be $0 and they manage to never exceed it. If you don’t want to humiliate and degrade your finsubs, you don’t have to. You also don’t have to make a whole new offshoot of a fetish that shows a lack of understanding or experience. Toss this nurturing bullshit back into the dumpster fire of findom twitter where it belongs.
Indoctrination
Chances are if you’re here reading this, you’re submissive. You stumbled upon my page in the process of exploring your new kink. I’ve assuaged you of any hesitation you were grappling with in the previous 700 words. However, it’s time to play and for that you should go to my clip store and pick up some findom goodness. Above all else, my goal is to turn every last one of you into some form of a finsub. Whether you’re looking for total destruction, or just the rush of financial submission, I can make use of your dollars.