It’s a fact that almost any submissive who comes to me has an expiration date. That date isn’t set by their own life circumstances or low bank account balance; it’s set by me reaching my eventual limit with them. I would never label myself a people person and interacting with you is something I do primarily out of the desire to drain you of your funds, and secondarily as a fun way to torment/humiliate/mind fuck men. Probability points to you becoming more of a burden than boon. The only question is “when?”
Honeymooners
Let me outline how our “relationship” so to speak is likely to play out. First, the Honeymoon Period. You have either newly stumbled across me or finally summoned up the courage to contact me after months of trepidation. Maybe it begins with a tribute and a message, maybe it’s a call to my phone lines, or you buy a cam/text session. Your introduction goes over well enough that I don’t immediately write you off, and I continue to allow you to pay for my time. As we explore your kinks and I assert my dominance your obsession and attachment to me rapidly grow. You find yourself hemorrhaging money just to keep that dopamine flowing as you seek out more and more of my time and attention.
The Honeymoon Period is a mutually enjoyable time because I am earning an absurd amount of money off of you. It’s pretty common for the average new addict to easily net me $1000+ the first week they come into my orbit. You also benefit from your newness to me. Your quirks and inane chatter about your fantasies have not had enough time to wear on me. I don’t yet dread seeing your name pop up on my screen. If only the Honeymoon Period could continue on infinitely you’d find yourself in your dream submissive relationship forevermore.
Downward Spiral
Sadly, money is a finite resource and your average submissive doesn’t have the kind of “fuck you” money required to maintain their initial binge spending. Thus we enter the Diminishing Returns Period. You’re still reaching out for sessions but I can tell you’re pinching your pennies as they grow shorter and more rushed. The selfless tributes (i.e., money not exchanged for good or sessions) that initially caught my attention evaporate. You start sending more messages outside of paid sessions or without tribute attached.
The problem is you’re so caught up in your addiction to serving and sessioning with me that you can’t see your own value diminishing before your very own eyes. As the money that once flowed unimpeded slows down to a trickle, my annoyance grows. Every message in my inbox without a tribute attached makes me roll my eyes. I start screening your calls when I don’t have the desire to interact with you. Still, I haven’t dropped you like a hot sack of shit yet and I indulge you when I’m in the mood.
A Ghosted Submissive
As my patience starts to wear, there’s little you can do to correct the course. We have entered the Termination Period. Your spending has weaned down so greatly that you have become a low-value submissive on my roster. Random fetish jerkers are more consistent and generous than you, a submissive who desires to be owned by/serve me. My avoidance of you is becoming a nuisance. I am potentially avoiding taking sessions because I dread the thought of you contacting me.
You have reached your expiration date. Not only have you become worthless to me, you’re actively a detriment to my business. I am not one to have a big breakup. You haven’t proven yourself worthy of the emotional labour on my part to correct your behavior. I know it’s pointless. And just like that, you’re blocked. You might be able to continue purchasing my clips created for mass consumption, but you have been prohibited from sucking up anymore of my energy.
I can outline this trajectory effortlessly because it has happened time and time again to me and many of the other dommes I am friendly with. We talk. Your reputation begins to precede you and you may find yourself unofficially blacklisted from other dommes you seek to serve. So how can you avoid being the repeatedly ghosted submissive?
Good Submissive 101
- Pace yourself. Magically summoning up more money is rarely a realistic long-term strategy for most subs. Start by spending a maintainable amount when you first reach out to me, something you can commit to weekly without relying on selling your blood plasma to make ends meet. My perception of a sub who consistently spends a smaller amount is much more favourable than one who can only go down from where they began.
- Respect your domme. So maybe you got a bit excited and overshot your budget. You don’t want your house to go into foreclosure so you need to pull back a bit. Cool. You know that happens with most subs right? They come and go, ebb and flow, appear and disappear. But if you don’t want to be a nuisance you need to respect that your professional domme is not interested in your dick’s desires or needs unless you are paying. Don’t send messages checking in. Don’t blow up my inbox promising future spending. Make yourself invisible until you have the funds required to buy a session or send a tribute. I won’t worry about your absence.
- Fix your personality. Perhaps the most unattainable piece of advice, but true nonetheless. The more grating and obnoxious you are, the higher amount of spending you’re going to have to maintain to have any domme tolerate you. Still, I have blocked subs who have dropped five figures on me so even prolific spending won’t buy you infinite immunity. I have a small number subs who have been serving me for years and have avoided their expiration date fate. They spend, but never astronomically. They are polite and even can be funny. Good subs aren’t in their subspace character 24/7 and can hold normal human conversation. I don’t hate their fucking guts. Try to be someone I don’t hate.
Some submissives are beyond help. They probably wouldn’t have read all of this, though. If you’re nervous to begin contacting me, don’t be. Worst case scenario you end up blocked. Best case scenario, you end up finding the domme of a lifetime. Just remember what you read here and it’s pretty easy to postpone your expiration date indefinitely. Start with a tribute and make yourself known to me. Eventually I’ll post some stories about the good boys for inspiration.